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Remembering Daddy (A Fathers’ Day Tribute)

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Father’s Day is drawing near. Although it is not celebrated here in SK on the third Sunday of June, it is impossible to forget this important occasion, since I have started receiving emails about gift ideas and promos for Dads.

When I was in the Philippines, my sister and I would visit Daddy on Fathers’ Day. We’d bring him some flowers and light candles for him.

When Dad was still with us, I would make him a card or write him a letter on Fathers’ Day, and come to see him in his humble little house in Dao.

When I was a little girl, I would draw him a caricature with a big “I LOVE YOU, DADDY” that my Mom helped me spell.

This afternoon, I was reviewing some of my old notes in my Facebook homepage, and found a poem and a letter I wrote for Daddy that I would like to share with daughters and sons out there.

It’s my Daddy’s birthday tomorrow. As a tribute to the man who has “held up” the sun for me when I was younger… I am posting a poem I wrote for him on his birthday eleven years ago.

Mr. Nicolas Santos, I am proud to be your daughter.

I THANK GOD EVERY TIME I REMEMBER YOU

I thank God because he holds your heart

He clothes you with love and understanding

With Him your life will never fall apart

He’ll make you see how wonderful life can be

I thank God because he believes in you

Regrets of the past he knows are true

Heed to his call, he’ll light your path

He’ll be with you in everything you do

I thank God because he has given you another chance

I can see in your eyes as I take a glance

You’ll do your best; you’ll make things right

Despite the tears, you’ll never break

Most of all, I thank God for giving us a father like you

A father who is caring and loving and true

We may not always be together, Daddy

But I love you very, very very much

And I thank God for giving me a heart big enough to love you

I thank God every time I remember you

Not only today because it’s your birthday

But every single day.

This poem was written at 9:30 in the morning on September 13, 2000 (while I was in a tricycle on my way to Daddy’s house). I wrote it on two pieces of flyers I got from Chowking; then rewrote the poem on a birthday card.

The poem dated September 13, 2000

My draft paper

I couldn’t make it to his actual birthday which was on September 10, so I visited him three days after.

That was the last time I saw my Dad. Thirteen days after my final visit, he passed away. T.T

At times, I still cry when I remember him and that sad day of our last meeting. For some reason, I didn’t want to leave him. We used to talk a lot, but that day was different. He didn’t speak much… but just before we parted, he told me: “Take care of yourself, my daughter. If somebody hurts you, I will never forgive him.”

I kissed him goodbye, rode the tricycle back home… but I couldn’t take my eyes off him. I looked at him until he was out of sight. Tears rolled down my face. He stood there watching me leave as if he knew that we’d never see each other again.

My favorite photo of Daddy and the Bible that he gave to me

I have kept the draft of the poem in the Bible Daddy gave me.

My Daddy’s last words to me show how much he cared for me. Just like most fathers, he rarely said it in words, but I have always known that he loved me dearly.

As a child, I was a DADDY’S GIRL. In my heart, I will always be my DADDY’S GIRL.

If he were here today, this is what I’d like to tell him:

Dear Daddy,

          I remember what you told me eleven years ago. That time I was a fragile young lady who easily cried and can barely stand on her own feet… but now I am a different person. I have had many downfalls in my life and I have learned to conquer them. I have been hurt many times and now I am stronger. There are still times when I feel vulnerable. There are moments when I get frustrated and cry, but the tears easily fade away. I have learned to embrace life’s imperfections and to accept myself the way I am. I have learned all these things from you and Mommy. You and Mom made me the person that I am today. You raised me the best way you can and showed me so much love that I have so much of it in my heart to give away… and Daddy, you were right about something that you said when I was a little girl… there would come a time when I’d meet someone to give my heart to and it would not matter who he is or where he is from as long as he cares for me and truly loves me. I have found him, Daddy. He takes good care of me and he loves me very much… so don’t you worry about me… I am safe with him and I know that he will not hurt me. 

          I love you from the bottom of my heart. I miss you terribly.

This song never fails to bring tears to my eyes every time I hear it. I sang it on my sister’s wedding, and that was the only time I sang it without crying.

If your father is still with you, cherish every moment you have with him. Let him know how much you appreciate everything he has done for you and for the family. Love him for his sweetness, his cheesy jokes, his hard work, his strictness, his imperfections.

I have loved mine… for everything he was… and everything he wasn’t… and that love remains and is stronger even now that he’s gone.

5 thoughts on “Remembering Daddy (A Fathers’ Day Tribute)

  1. Amen… my, am I so blessed! =)

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  2. You still have the Greatest Father who created the heaven and the earth,The Father whos telling “I will not leave you nor forsake you”….

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  3. sure sis.. alang problema kanako ita… mimingat ka lagi neh…
    Godbless your kind heart ^^

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  4. Wapin, Regy… maka-miss la talaga ding tatang, actually ding parents tamu… now that we have a family of our own.

    “Fathers are like the candles… they make daylight out of darkness.” I like this one. Can I repost it in my FB on Fathers’ Day? I’ll quote you na lang. kkk ^^

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  5. hi sis Chris…

    ah mis keng lalo ing tatang ko.. nangkasanting eng article nga i nye..
    Tama ka cherish every moment that we have with our parents.. ^^

    Fathers are like the candles they make daylight out of darkness.
    A father is someone who is concerned with every thing we do.
    My Dad has been a great hero in my life,the greatest strength.
    Today, because of my Dad I’m been blessed in so many ways.
    From the bottom of my heart I want to say ‘Thank You Dad for Everything’..
    I Love You.

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